Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Fear (my views)

All fear is in the head!

How does even a fiercest hound become a tail-wagging “his master’s pet”?

The kingdom of fear rises in mind, and that is where it perishes too!

Even a single step of bravery and courage can trigger an evalanche!

The wall of fear is strong enough to desist a sea of people; and is weak enough for a single daring
person!

Fear is a big power!

Both cowardice and bravery are highly infectious.

Face the fear upfront & the fear shall diminish in size.

Only the powerful can be happy. The weak shall be shooed away!

Vulnerability is not a virtue, don’t beg.

Power is a deterrent.

Only when you have inflicted a loss, threatened or are very lucrative and inviting to the
instincts, should you feel threatened.

Nobody is coming! Help yourself!

Hint your fear to the enemy and he shall instinctively threaten more!

Nothing in this world is to be feared, but to be understood.

Let us never negotiate out of fear, and let us never fear to negotiate!

We teach people how to treat us!

90% of the time, it is your image that makes or breaks your task.

People do what works!

Unity is strength.

Violence is a sign of a fearful, frustrated or a hunter!

You will be tested for your bravery!

Test the bastards for their bravery!

Who’s territory?

Use of power is a sign of weakness!

Assets and wealth can’t be protected if you are not powerful!

Cricket Analogies with Life

· “ Play with a straight bat ”
- In life it is important to do the right things rightly.

· “ Stay at the crease ”
- Have patience. You will have ample correct opportunities.

· “ Running between the wickets “
- Do happily and efficiently what has to be done

· “ Footwork ”
- Be adventurous. Use your talent. Be passionate

· “ Concentrate on line and length ”
- Consistency is crucial.

· “ Keep the scoreboard ticking. 1’s and 2’s are also important“
- A little progress everyday adds up to big results.
- Keep progressing and improving.

· “ Save 25-50 runs in fielding ”
- Practice frugality. Money saved is money earned. It’s compounding effect is huge!”

· “ Helmet, Guards, Pads, Gloves”
- Safety net in life is important – whether financial, social, family, political, religious…
- Live life sensibly.

· “ Don’t get hit-wicket ”
- Beware of wrong decisions which can be detrimental

· “ Build the foundation of innings”
- First few years of career, marriage, business are crucial. Concentrate on investing in foundation. You have to learn to walk before you run and take off

· “Rotate the strike“
- Take partners along. Give them opportunity. Take a breather yourself.

· “ Build partnerships ”
- What clicks, keep clicking. Stability is important.

How to take difficult decisions?

Go thru these 17 questions / posers and see if the decision surfaces:

* Will it be profitable / will it serve the intended purpose?

* Is it futuristic? Today it may seem justified, but will it be relevant in future too? Is the decision future proof?

* Is it a healthy / ethical / efficient thing to do?

* Generally, the decision opposite to the temptation is correct.

* What does your (tiny, little) inner voice and sixth sense say? Often, the little genie inside whispers sense, and often we bully or shoo it away! Generally, we KNOW what is right!

* Remember the Murphy's Law - 'Whatever you do it will be incorrect.' Plan on this hypothecation.

Remember - Everything has a day-after-tomorrow. Don't take a decision hastily or impulsively or on short-term considerations.

* Is the decision 'natural and obvious' or 'forced'?

* Is the decision technically correct? I mean, if you were to involve only head and no heart, would you still take it?

* Ask yourself point blank - What is the BASIC OBJECTIVE of the decision? Often, frank answer to this question will be eye opener and decisive.

* Ask yourself - What are the pros & cons of this decision? What are the implications & repercussions?

* Ask yourself frankly - "Am I mentally ready for this?"

* Ask yourself - Is this decision in harmony with my life? Does it fit culturally and psychologically?

* Don't forget other stake holders' rights! Ask youself as to how this decision will effect those stake holders. The stake holders may be your family, friends, colleagues, general public etc..

* Consider the practicalities of the decision. Often the asking may be eye opener.

* Generally speaking, don't decide till you are passionate about the motive.

* Ask yourself- What assumptions I have made in deciding? Sometimes our assumptions are totally or critically wrong. Look for the missing links.

Today's decisions, tomorrow's reality. Good Luck! Take the right decision!!!

Raising Children

Raising children is all about giving them:-

* Eyes / Vision
- Exposure, Information, Knowledge, Training, Experience, Programming

* Wings
- Infrastructure, Basics, Finance, Equipment

* Direction
- Life lessons, Life Strategies, Aim

* Flight
- Ambition, Adventure

* Glide
- Discipline, Control

* Brains
- Ability to take decisions, being practical, Conscience

* Spirit
- Confidence, Motivation, Inspiration, Courage

* Emotions
- Bonding, Ties, Compassion, Empathy

* Strength
- Physical Health, Mental Health, Spiritual Health,

* Roots / Nest
- Culture, Point of reference, Belongingness, Family, Safety Net

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

9 Passwords to Happy Life

9 Passwords to Happy Life

Each one of us desperately wants to be happy. If happiness is a treasure locked in a strong vault with nine chambers, here are the nine possible passwords. Read these without being disturbed, in private, absolute silence and without haste.

First Password
"Simple"
'It is so simple to be happy, but it is so difficult to be simple.'
Life is 99% clutter and 1% substance. If you are a computer and life is your RAM, then this 99% clutter is the virus which has jammed the free flow of happiness!
Remove the unnecessary and in the end all you will be left with is happiness!
But it requires a lot of courage to live simple.
Absence of simplicity is making us all unhappy!

Second Password
"Silence"
The world is full of noise. Noise - of words, of thoughts, of visuals...
Just remain silent for an entire day and your life will change...! Silence will evaporate every clutter in and around you. Silence not just of sound but of the mind as well!!!
Silence never comes alone. It brings smile even when everything around you is on fire! It opens the eyes of the mind!
Absence of silence is keeping us unhappy!

Third Password
"Slow"
Everyone on the Earth is running!
But where? For what? Why??
It is all madness!
99 out of 100 are running because they don't know anything except running or because they see everyone around running.
People are running without thinking. They don't want to be the odd man out!
Stop.
Step aside.
Look how everyone is still madly running! Towards imaginary destinations which keep on shifting everyday and which they don't even know clearly!!!
Leave the track. Get into the meadows!
Death is nature's warning to us to slow down.
The hypnotic pace of everyday life is fueling the unhappiness in our lives.

Fourth Password
"Easy"
Why complicate everything?
Whom are we trying to impress? The person we are trying to impress is already busy trying to impress someone else?
Why make it difficult?
Are we fools?
Keep everything easy and natural.
Difficulty in every thought and action and emotion is blocking our path to happiness!

Fifth Password
"Enjoy"
The ultimate purpose of life is to enjoy life! Nothing is more important than life!!
(But enjoyment must be such that it doesn't sow the seeds of loss of enjoyment at a later stage)
If you are not enjoying, then you are not living!
You are rich only when you live an enriched life.
Enjoy the nature you miss everyday. Enjoy the food, the music, the emotions, the pleasures…
Consuming life without enjoying is depriving us of happiness!

Sixth Password
"Relax"
Relax…life is a picnic…a grand party…It is not a job…not an interview…no race…no question…no challenge…no burden…no deadlines…
Every clutter is our creation. We keep on reacting on everything in life, and life keeps hitting us back!
Lack of rest and relaxation is keeping us tense!

Seventh Password
"Natural"
What requires 'force' brings stress. What is 'natural' is full of life!

Eight Password
"Patience"
Impatience with life is like eagerness for death!

Ninth Password
"Satisfaction"
Lack of contentment in 'what is', is like throwing away God's starter before he serves you the maincourse...

Relax…life is a picnic…a grand party…It is not a job…not an interview…no race…no question…no
God wanted us to be happy, we used our "intelligence" and messed it all up!

How to become rich in 1 day? (and happy too!)

How to become rich in 1 day? (and happy too!) By just changing the definition of being "rich"!!! There are two definitions which come to my mind. One is the traditional definiton and the other is the need of the hour! The first definition of being rich is "being wealth rich", the other definition is "being cashflow rich". Being wealth rich traditionally means you have a big house, a big car, lot of land, your life style is that of the rich, you wear expensive clothes, you have an air and attitude of the rich, you go to upmarket restaurants, you go to holidays to exotic places, travel mostly by air, everything in your life is first class…and alike. But there are big holes in this definition. Your big car may be on loan, your big house may be on loan, your business may be on mortgage, you may be in deep debt, your business may be in loss, your lifestyle may infact be a liability to you, your attitude may be your frustration wrapped in arrogance, you may be facing court cases, your health may be slipping out of your hands, you may not be "really happy" from "inside", your family and relationships may be in tatters… Being wealth rich doesn't necessarily mean cash rich. Your net worth may be negative. who knows the real picture of the wealthy? I have heard about quite a few "wealthy" who are in deep debts and are applying for personal loans. They are forced to maintain their lifestyle, they carry the burden of their image, they have a reputation to keep… They are not happy majority of the times. On the contrary, "being cashflow rich" is the real thing! Even the "wealth rich" enjoy their being "rich" only as long as they are 'cashflow rich'. Being "cashflow rich" simply means that cash keeps on coming to you regularly. You can do what you want to do…one by one… 80% of your happiness comes from just 20% of the 'things' and 80% of those 20% 'things' can come in 20% of the money! Think about it. Our 'wants' are virus in our mind 'computer'. The "system" stands hyjacked!!! Are 'real wants' which give us happiness and make us lively have been trashed!!! u r rich if you have cash in your pocket, and which will keep on coming in your pocket! Period! so, you can be rich from wherever you are , whatever you are, right now, right here… u r rich if your income is more than your expenses. Or, when your genuine expenses are less than your income! it appears that we are after money, but what we are really after is "permanent" money! And the trouble is there is nothing called 'permanent money'. Money accumulation has become no.1 disease on Earth! this is the reason why the mad rush of accumulating money never ends. After 1 lac, you want 10 lacs, then 1 crore, then 10 crore, then 50 and then 100 followed by 500….Even Bill Gates , Warren Buffet, Ambani's, Mittals want more!!! Every wealth is subject to confiscation, taxation, inflation, devaluation, fraud, distress sale, death, tragedy, erosion, ... And these worries keep on fuelling the race for more,more and more… The real life is getting lost while going for symptomatic relief to this disease! Seeking "permanent" money and wealth creates insecurity, but seeking regular cashflow is much easier…almost instant! so, want to be rich, here and now!!? become cashflow rich!!! Don't worry about tomorrow's cashflow. If tomorrow comes, and if you are alive and WISE, cashflow will continue!

When will you be happy?

You are likely to be one of the following four kinds of people:-

1. "Not conscious that I am being regularly unhappy but if i were conscious I know how to be happy!"
= If this is you, you are not "awake", are "intoxicated" with your state of affairs and are caught in the rat race!

2. "Not conscious that I am being regularly unhappy but even if i were conscious I didn't know how to be happy!"
= If this is you, you are caught in the "sorrow trap"! how, when,whether you will be free are the questions!!

3. "Conscious that I am being regularly unhappy but don't know how to be happy!"
= If this is you, all you need is to seek the way out! Half the road to happiness already!!

4. "Conscious that I am being regularly unhappy and know what to do about it!!"
= If this is you, Happiness is set to dawn. You are almost there. Congratulations, you lucky!!!

where are you, financially?

You are likely to be in one of the following 4 financial situations:-

1. Low income, Expenses out of control ("spendthrift")
= If this is you, Crises ahead, fasten your seat belts!!

2. Low income, Expenses under control (largely limited to necessary ones)
= If this is you, better times are coming!!

3. Good income, Expenses out of control ("spendthrift")
= If this is you, you are on a risky, thrilling, stressful "yo-yo" ride! Need luck to stay lucky!!

4. Good income, Expenses under control (largely limited to necessary ones)
= Prosperity, Peace, Happiness gallore!!!

who is the real "lucky" and who is the real "unlucky"

This is an experiment done by the God on the basis of which He was awarded a Ph.D.

The objective of His thesis was

"To know who is the real "lucky" and who is the real "unlucky""

God gathered everyone to his office and started randomly throwing luck towards everyone.

80% of the people got just 20% of the luck, and 20% people got away with 80% luck!!!

God's record-keepers (who were watching everything from a secret camera) labelled the 80% as "the Unlucky".

The rest 20% were labelled as "the Lucky".

After this, everyone was sent down to Earth and watched closely from the sky.

After sometime, God appointed a fact-finding committee to know the status of all of them.

The results were eye-opening:-

Out of the 80% "Unlucky", just 20% did 80% of the efforts done by the "unlucky" group.

God's record-keepers labelled these 20% of 80% "unlucky" (net 16%) as "the harworking unlucky" and the rest 64% as "lazy unlucky"

God gave these 16% "extra luck" from his Emergency quota and transferred them to the group of "the Lucky"

Rest 64% "unlucky" had resigned to their fate! God's record-keepers labelled them as "the resigned Unlucky".
...

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Out of the 20% "Lucky", just 20% did 80% of the efforts done by the "lucky" group.

God's record-keepers labelled these 20% of 20% "Lucky" (net 4%) as "the hardworking lucky" and the rest 16% as "lazy lucky"

God gave PR (Permanent Residency) of the Lucky zone to these "4% hardworking lucky" and transferred the rest 64% "lazy lucky" into the "unlucky" group!!!

Thus, the final 20% of "the lucky" was formed with 16% "harworking unlucky" and 4% "hardworking lucky"

Also, the final 80% of "the unlucky" was formed with 64% "lazy unlucky" and 16% "lazy lucky"

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Did u get the Opportunities!

Everyone alive seems to be on a quest...moving towards something....

Some have got there, some will and some won't....ever....

What's the difference? Opportunity ?

Think again...


The truth?

There are 4 situations anyone can land himself in life:-

1) Opportunity you are looking for comes
= you were consciously on the lookout and finally your effort and patience and passion paid-off

2) Opportunity comes but you were not looking for one
= real chances of missing the opportunity. might not recognise it even if it were to pass you from an inch.

3) Opportunity you are looking for doesn't come
= you will latch on to half-opportunities or win by mistaking a non-opportunity for an opportunity!

4) Opportunity doesn't come, neither were you looking for one
= don't complain...u haven't got the right to...